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[–] [email protected] 71 points 6 months ago (13 children)

I only realised it later that many people have a transactional view of life. They think everything single activity must have a purpose. And while they not actively seek it, at the back of their minds they expect some sort reward. Like, the dude who scoffed the guy learning to play flute probably only wants to learn new skills if it impresses others, like a girl or something.

[–] [email protected] 37 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (4 children)

While everything you said is valid, sometimes that question is pure curiosity. "Because i want to" is completely valid, though I'd love to know what the inspiration for that desire was. Did you hear a really cool battle song? Some orchestral piece that sounded great? A friend recommended it? Couldn't find an ocarina? Jamming to some folk metal?

I swear I'm inquisitive!

[–] [email protected] 23 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Though one should probably not phrase it "Haha! Why?!" if it was out of curiosity.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

That's fair, though I might possibly (albeit unlikely) respond that way, but the reaction would be more in surprise as opposed to disdain.

Perhaps I already played the flute and the individual jokingly gave me a hard time over it, now they're playing the flute? Why!? You're one of us now!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I got a lot of “but why?” from other adults for my hobbies. Recently bought a cheap guitar and amp because I want to learn it. Every casual friend adult did a “but why? You won’t be in a band or anything.” Pursuing something because it interests you is outside of the norm for a lot of people.

I also noticed people have wildly defeatist attitudes about hobbies. No, I won’t be as good as Kirk Hammet (Metallica) in a year. For a lot of people that means they should not even try.

I would rather be boring and be able to play the bard music from Skyrim.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

Oh for sure. I'm not suggesting that those situations don't occur, they absolutely do. I'm adding that there's the alternative possibility that I'm legitimately curious as to the reasoning. I could also see some validity in the you don't want to be in a band comment, because that person or those people might wonder why the choice was made.

Not understanding something and asking questions isn't always the same as a personal attack. I think we all need to be a little better about giving the benefit of the doubt sometimes.

For the record, i don't think that's boring at all, that sounds pretty neat. Jam away!!

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