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US man has brain damage, mother says, after allegedly being pushed into lake
(www.theguardian.com)
this post was submitted on 06 May 2024
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No that was not a friend, that was a psychopath doing harm to others with no thoughts of consequences.
That action is assault, and should be punished as such.
EDIT: To those that defend the girl:
We know, She pushed him, and she didn't rescue him or even attempt it , and we also know she took a very long time to call for help.
So based on that make your own judgement on whether she is more likely to be a psychopath than not. She sure behaved like one.
Not every bad decision makes a person a psychopath. You're diluting the meaning of that word.
Shoving a friend into a pool or a lake is pretty common young person behavior. Odds are she feels extremely guilty now. That doesn't mean she shouldn't face consequences for what she did, but there is no indication that she is a psychopath.
Teach your children to swim.
I agree that everyone should know how to swim. Unfortunately, it's pretty common for those in poverty to never learn because they have fewer opportunities.
Odds or this person wasn't from a background of poverty, considering that he was studying to be a doctor, but it is a common problem in the US.
Do you not have swimming lessons in school? I hated them, the teacher, the chlorine. I don't like swimming, but if I needed to, I can. I mean, water makes up how much of the earth's surface, seems strange to ignore.
Most public schools do not have pools.
It's funny cos I think of (areas like ca) that have pools galore in the backyards so it would lead to you to expect schools to have them. Scratch that, it's not funny.
Florida has tons of pools too, and I actually got swimming lessons in elementary school, we had mini field trips for a week walking to a community pool and teaching everyone to, at a minimum, float on their back and tread water.
Except for the part where the guy can't swim, and she shoved him in the water regardless. And didn't try to rescue him and took 20 minutes to call for help, and the family believes it was malice. These were not children playing, he was 26 years old.
This all in the article, and I find it astonishing that people feel a need to defend her, when she basically killed that man, by behaving irresponsibly on 3 counts. there is basically nothing of the original person left.
You don’t know she knew he couldn’t swim, you don’t know what happened. Maybe they were both messing around pretending to shove and then it went too far. ~~Young~~ people do stupid things all the time, sometimes intentionally, and sometimes not.
Once again, shoving a friend into water does not make you a psychopath even if you know they can't swim. It makes you an idiot, for sure. But that's not psychopathy.
I was defending that
Sorry, I misread. Thank you for supporting proper use of that word. Everyone likes to just jump to 'psychopath' these days.
But we do know, He was 26 years old, so this was not children playing. She pushed him in the water, but didn't rescue him, and we also know she took a very long time to call for help. So maybe base this on what we know instead of what we don't know and speculation on what happened.
So based on that make your own judgement on what kind of person she is.
It was probably one of those morons who said "this is how my parents taught me! Hyuk hyuk" and then pushed him in.
People have tried that on me, knowing I can't swim, and I almost got physical when they'd "pretend" to push me in the deep end. It just makes me wary around them near the pool, because I can actually fucking die if I fall in.
You might consider taking swimming lessons, my dude. Also, fuck those people.
A local place wanted $170 per lesson, and they recommended lessons twice a week. I need to keep looking but at $340 a week that's a bit out of my range.
Do you have a friend who knows how to swim? It isn’t difficult to teach someone the basics of swimming for survival—floating, kicking, and a basic stroke to get to the edge. I know I’d be willing to teach any friend who didn’t know how for free, and I imagine a lot of other swim capable people would feel the same since it is such a safety issue.
Friends have tried but I'm not gonna lie, they fail because of me. I'm very scary when my feet leave the ground. Pool party? Yeah sure I'll go, but once the water is neck level with my feet down, I'm going back shallow.
One time I was making real progress and some drunk person almost drowned, interrupting the lesson.
You can learn to swim in water that is shallow enough to stand in. And if being safe in the event of a pychopathic 'prank' is the primary concern, focus on learning how to tread water. Everything will seem easier once you know for sure that you can keep your head above water. Most people who are enjoying a pool or the sea are not actually swimming anywhere anyway.
Some people just don't want to learn to swim. My mother is one of them. The whole idea gives her too much anxiety. I don't really have an issue if they don't want to get in the pool.
I hope you can find a way to learn that works for you. No need to leave the shallow end—even if you only learn to float, then you’ve learned to survive. Good luck! You’ll get this!
Have you tried water wings? I'm not joking, they'll look silly, but shouldn't be necessary for too long.
Wow, that's expensive! Hope you're able to find something more feasible. Good luck.
Wow that's crazy, but not to worry, if you want to, you can learn yourself. There are lots of YouTube videos on it, practice in the low end, start learning to tread water. That should make you a lot more comfortable in the water.
As a child before we learned to swim properly, we used what we called dog swimming, where we basically just flap our arms downwards to push our heads above water, and splashed with the legs to push us forward. That's enough technique to know how not to not die at least, and be able to move around in water.
When you get comfortable in water, swimming becomes easy, there are so many ways to do it, and it's fun. Especially if you live near usable sea water.
Fr, in the age of YouTube, no one has any excuses to not learn how to do most things other than laziness imo.
They night also consider getting new 'friends'.