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Headline: How did Netflix know I was gay before I did?
Sub header: After BBC reporter Ellie House came out as gay, she realised that Netflix already seemed to know. How did that happen?
THE FIRST FUCKING LINE OF THE FUCKING ARTICLE: I realised that I was BISEXUAL in my second year of university, but Big Tech seemed to have worked it out several months before me.
Gay is a happily accepted term for "penis+penis", lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, whatever, in the UK & Ireland. It is basically "not straight"; you can think of it as the British word for 'queer', because 'queer' still often means, well, queer. I wish you would respect British people's choice of how they identify; America's obsession with clinical and distinct labeling hasn't claimed this particular lingual nuance yet. Not everything is an attack on your chosen identity.
I’ve noticed that “gay” is used as a more general term for members of the LGBTQ+ community, similar to how “guys” has a pretty common gender-neutral usage
EDIT: tweaked the wording a bit
“Guys” hasn’t actually been accepted as gender neutral for a number of years, due to its implicit anti-feminist bias (you’ll fit in if you act like us men).
I struggle with not using it constantly, as it was the go-to gender neutral term for my generation.
"Folks" is a good replacement choice. Works in all the same contexts.
Y'all is a good one.
All y'all need to start using y'all.
Y'all is where it's at.
I think this is a bit regional. "Guys" sounds entirely gender neutral to my ear while "dudes" or "bro" sound specifically about men. But I know that "dude" and "bro" are used to refer to either women or men in other locations and "guys" is interpreted as being also referring to men there. I don't think there is an absolute with these particular terms.
As a Californian, I take GREAT offense at the idea of gendering “dude”.
There is no more gender neutral term than “dude.” You’re dude. I’m dude. He’s dude. She’s dude. They are dudes. The weather is dude. Animals… dudes. Kids: dudes. Elderly: dudes. Girls are dudes. Boys are dudes. Men and women are dudes. Google is dude. Your smart phone… also dude. Parking meter? Dude.
You can use it for anything… but do not gender it.
One might even say that we’re all dudes, hey!
Thanks for the correction! I still hear that usage fairly often and wasn’t up with the discourse around it. Like the other reply I’m also more partial to “folks” personally (as well as “y’all”), but I think I still use “guys” out of habit on occasion