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I don't have a lot of experience with dating and I'm kind of a loner, so I've had a problem over the past decade of jumping at whoever expresses interest in me. It's a bad habit. The last two people I dated ended up being deep transphobes, both laughed when I told them I'm non-binary. With the last one, we had already been on like 3 dates or so and had gotten a little intimate, so that really made me ashamed of myself.
The last person revealed themselves to be a Raëlian too, the UFO cult. A lot of other conspiracy theory junk bouncing around their brain too. They must have known all of this stuff would turn me away, because none of it came out until I had known them for two months and we'd already considered ourselves close. Advice for the future: Ask anyone you're gonna date important questions about their view of the world before doing anything further, it'll save time. Figure out their religion, politics, stance on trans/gay people, everything, because for me it was a little devastating. I thought I had finally found someone. Oh well.
First date questions:
Do you believe in the moon?
Would you describe the world as a sphere, a disc or a construct created by the elders of Zion designed to keep people distracted from something else?
Hmm, maybe it's third date questions, together with questions regarding family goals and values and where they want to be in five years time?
at first I thought you said elders of Zeon and I imagined accidentally dating Char Aznable in disguise
but yeah I'm gonna have to start asking basic questions about the moon landing, validity of trans people, and even if humans evolved from earlier primates