this post was submitted on 29 Aug 2023
132 points (100.0% liked)
Chat
7483 readers
37 users here now
Relaxed section for discussion and debate that doesn't fit anywhere else. Whether it's advice, how your week is going, a link that's at the back of your mind, or something like that, it can likely go here.
Subcommunities on Beehaw:
This community's icon was made by Aaron Schneider, under the CC-BY-NC-SA 4.0 license.
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
I came over with the initial reddit defector wave. I loved it here. You could have civil conversations, even when you disagreed with someone else. It honestly felt like the forums of the early 2000s again. Then it started getting more aggressive, and all the "well....aksually" type replies started happening. I find myself hardly on lemmy/kbin/beehaw anymore because of it.
Have you found another landing spot?
Sadly no. I guess it’s a good thing. I’m just not on any social media much now.
That's been me, too. I'll pop in here sometimes, but overall the whole thing has ended up making me realize that social media as a whole just... Isn't that great, actually. It's a constant stream of little things, many of them things to be upset about that I can't do anything about.
I've been spending more time instead on things like reading, that require prolonged focus on one thing, and damn if I don't feel better this way.
Also... Beehaw and lemmy in general seems to have gotten even more tilted into hardcore FOSS/privacy/Linux culture, which is the opposite of what I hoped would happen. Privacy is important to me but I dislike Linux and I just don't prioritize it in the way that a lot of people here do, such that they're talking about it what feels like all the time to the exclusion of other topics.
Still, I remain here enough to type this comment. shrug
I want to try Tildes instead maybe but I think that's still invite-only.
As a 'well, actually' style poster, sorry I'll calm it down a bit. I'd really like to get into Firefish or something to be able to make my own blog rather than like... pruning peoples political takes, making epicly long posts that recieve little attention, and oversharing. Maybe I'm not so good at link aggregator social media.
Me too. I suppose I was too optimistic about what Lemmy could be, eh. :( Then again, maybe these are just some additional growing pains. Time will tell!
What
It’s not about needing a safe space. It’s when you say something, and then someone comes by and starts picking apart one piece of what you said. Which never even relates to the conversation at hand anyhow. Or they try to “correct” you about some ridiculously minute grammar mistake/word choice. Or even better, they interpret what you’re trying to say completely wrong, and go on the offensive.