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[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Unsure if this counts as a quote but here goes.

If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best

Absolute fucking nonsense.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

The worst part of this quote is that, in the original, she (Marilyn Monroe) actually framed her "worst":

>I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.

So in the context it sounds more like "here are my flaws - take me or leave me, but you won't change me". Which sounds reasonable. But without that context it sounds more like "I'm entitled because I like to pretend that I'm above other people".

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (6 children)

I am surprised no one yet has posted the infuriatingly worthless expression of affectless sympathy:

thoughts and prayers

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

As a nonnative speaker, the first time I heard the expression was on Bojack Horseman and it confused the hell out of me.

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago (3 children)

"Do or do not, there is no try"

The rallying cry of the kind of person who thinks every hobby has to become a side hustle.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You tried your best and you failed miserably. The lesson is, never try.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I feel like that quote is better interpreted as "you haven't failed until/unless you give up." There is also value to "don't go into something without committing to it," but damn not everything has to be a fucking job.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (2 children)

My least favorite is

Just be yourself!

Even in grade school I knew this was hogwash. I didn't act the same in class as during recess, or in church as when at the dinner table. Exactly which me was I supposed to be? When someone asks, "What am I supposed to do?" They are really asking, "How should I behave?" And if you've never been on a date before, or this is your first job interview, then it's not obvious.

A: "So, how did the interview go?"

B: "Not so well, he threw my resume away, in front of me, and ordered me to leave."

A: "What? Why?"

B: "Well, I did just as your said, I was being myself. I walked in, gave him the ol' finger guns, then started with my best fart joke."

A: "Why the hell would you do that at an interview?"

B: "Because that routine always slays in the dorms and I was trying to be myself."

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

ask yourself: is it possible to be anybody else? no? then this saying is non-nonsensical!

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I don’t see it anymore after leaving the hell that is Reddit, but I saw β€œPlay stupid games, win stupid prizes” multiple times in every thread.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I haven't seen "fuck around and find out" since the old Reddit days, either.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Thank goodness for that. Another comment that was posted over and over and over in every thread.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I mean I get that if used in a context where a person does something with great risk attached and with few and rare good possible outcomes (stupid games). And then they get a bad outcome (stupid prize).

For example Jackass-like stunts.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"Don't be evil." -Google

Both hate and laugh it.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Agreed. This sounds good but immediately falls apart at the first scrutiny. It's the same with "Don't be a dick." Everyone nods their heads and thinks, "Oh, that's so obvious!" Of course, everyone agrees because they're imagining what they believe is 'evil' or 'being a dick' and just assume everyone else agrees. Imagine their surprised-Pikachu face when they learn that other humans use different criteria.

But, if you think you can sum up thousands of years of ethics and legal theories with one pithy sentence, then go for it.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Anything on a decorative sign meant to hang in a house. Examples include β€œLive, Laugh, Love” (which has already been mentioned) or something about wine.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

"pull yourself up by the bootstraps" it's literally impossible

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I always thought that was the point of the phrase.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

I think it was when it was first coined, but it's been used unironically for awhile.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Not see it. But I hear this one.

"it's always in the last place you look"

No shit Sherlock. Why would I keep looking after I found it?

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I always thought that was the joke?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

I must say, in retrospect it kind of seems obvious, but this has somehow blown my mind

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

And it is a false statement:

sometimes you stop looking without finding anything so in those cases it isn't in the last place you look

so the clam "It's always in the last place you look" is obviously false.

otherwise you could say up front "I'm only gonna look in one place!" and then you would HAVE to find it in this last place you look!

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I don't know who has to hear this but

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (10 children)

"We only use x% of our brain."

Simply not true as shown since years by neurology

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There are moments where people use more of their bran at once than they usually do.
We call these moments "seizures".

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

As an epileptic married to a monitor tech, we both had a good laugh when I shared this.

Thanks stranger.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

''what doesn't kill you, make you stronger'' it's just so overused and saturated

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

"live, laugh, love"

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"The customer is always right" conveniently missing the second part: "...in matters of taste and style".

Also misinterpreting "customer" as an individual rather than as the aggregate of customer demand.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Everything happens for a reason.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

…often said with the unspoken implication that it’s a good reason, planned by a higher power, and that you should just meekly accept things and shut up.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

"You can't have your cake and eat it too". What is the flaming point of having cake if you can't eat it?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I wondered about this for years and years, never understanding, especially, since "having cake" and "eating cake" are used interchangeably. But, I finally figured it out! In this sense, the "having" is equivalent to "keeping" or "being in possession of."

Examples:

  • "What's it like having a Mercedes Benz?"
  • "The Smiths have a very nice home."

No eating implied!

Therefore, the saying is more inline with "You can't keep (to show off or admire) your cake, and eat it, too."

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

One time I baked a whole entire cake for myself. There was no occasion or anything I just wanted to have a cake and eat it too. It turns out cakes are really big and it's really hard for a single person to eat a cake faster than it turns all spongy and icky.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

"God is testing you." "God has a plan." "God never closes a door without opening a window." "I'll pray for you."

Or any other religious bullshit. Keep that shit to yourself. I'm living in the real world.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Hard men create easy times.

Easy times create soft men.

Soft men create hard times.

Hard times create hard men.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Man creates dinosaurs

Dinosaurs eat man

Woman inherits the earth

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Which is ironically said the most by soft men who grew up in easy times.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

More cheese => more holes.

More holes => less cheese.

Therefore: More cheese => Less cheese

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"Life's not fair." It seems that more often than not the person saying it is in a position to make the situation fair. Usually it is people in positions of power saying it and it feels more like an excuse for their inaction.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

"You are your own worst enemy."

I hate it most when it's true.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Here's a quote used by media shills to defend crappy movies all the time: "[formerly great franchise] is now shitty. And why that's a GOOD THING."

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

in Dutch we have the saying "act normal, then your already weird enough' I fucking hate that quote so much

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