Lost_My_Mind

Imagine all the ripped buttholes.

I just spent the last hour typing up a post to put in [email protected] about how I observed a beautiful moment with a father and his 3 year old son.

The son was a fan of a wrestler named L.A. Knight. And he was set to make his grand entrance, and have his match, live in front of 57k people.

We were in the stadium, in line for merchandise. The line was really long. So the dad realized they would miss L.A Knight's match.

Logically the smart thing to do is bring your son back to your seats. Give up your place in line, and try later. Or evdn online later.

Instead, this dad, who was clearly also a fan of L.A Knight, and wanted to see him asked his son: "Do you want to stay in line? Or go see L.A Knight?"

And the kid picked staying in line. The dad confirmed with him "If you stay in line, you'll miss L.A Knight in the ring. He's coming out now."

And the kid chose to stay in line to get L.A Knight merch.

And the whole moment was beautiful to me. The idea of a dad respecting his kids opinion is foreign to me.

I grew up with my dad telling me to shut up and do it his way. Always his way. Still to this day, it's always his way. My mom left him because he was controlling. My sisters (who are not his kids, but he helped raise them) don't talk to him because of how he treated them.

I'm 40, and now he's elderly, and I barely talk to him. Sometimes I feel guilty until moments like this. Where I'm reminded that still to this day I don't speak up when I should. I don't ask for help when I need it. I just suffer in silence, just as I always do.

There have even been times in the past where calling 911 for someone else having an emergancy was the right thing to do. Hearing gunshots on your street. Seeing a woman hanging out of a car screaming for help. But not calling 911, because nobody wants to hear what I have to say. Nobody wants to hear from me.

And at Summerslam, I see this kid saying he wants to stay in line. And the dad just confirms, and explains the consequences that he'll miss L.A Knight, but the kid insisted on staying in line. Despite it not being the smart choice. It was the "wrong" choice. If I were in that position, my dad would have ended it with zero input on my end. But here this dad was respecting his sons choice. His three year old son.

And as I typed to a wrestling community what I intended to be a beautiful story, I realized it's only beautiful to me because of my own repressed perspective. Everybody else just would hear a story about a normal dad doing normal dad things. Loving his son. Respecting his son.

And nobody would get why that would make me cry.

So I deleted the story before I posted it, and began to realize that even though I'm 40, and should be past all this, it still hurts, and I'm a deeply broken person.

And now I'm wondering, has anyone else had these moments where they realize that they've just been repressing pain for 30 years to the point where a normal loving relationship can cause jealousy, but also an intense heartwarming moment?

I don't know how to describe it. That moment was just 10 minutes out of this kids life that he'll not remember. The dad won't deem it important, so he won't remember this by now. It was a meaningless moment that in a loving relationship happens everyday. But to me, the idea of a dad respecting his son making a "wrong decision" had me supressing anger, sadness, and heartwarming joy, but also knowing how weird I was for that. And so I shut up, and repressed it. Only in trying to retell a heartwarming story did I realize it was coming across as bitter and jealous, and thats when I realized thats MY issue. And I don't know where to go from here.

Have you ever had a moment like this?

Bob Hoskins, or Capt Lou Albano?

No Charles Martinet in THIS one!

I'm 40, and when I was a teenager, EVERY band had CDs. And I know a lot of music has shifted to digital. So much so that I heard Best buy stopped selling CDs. Presumably because nobody buys them.

So I wonder what musicians sell besides t-shirts and posters at concerts. Do the kids have ANY CDs? Do they buy mp3's? Do they just use pandora and spotify? Do they even own their own music?

I've given up on trying to understand the lingo. Other generations lingo sounds stupid to me, but still understandable based on context.

I have NO idea what a skibifibi toilet is....sounds like a toilet after some taco bell and untalented jazz, but maybe I can try to understand their thought process on media consumption.

Maybe we should just start nuking the most densely packed cities/countries. Sorry NYC, Tokyo, and basically all of India.

But would this not solve the problem?

So, I just remembered what I used to do with Game Boy Camera.

See this post

And I had an idea. What if Nintendo made a modern day cheap digital camera, in the same shape as a game boy camera, inside a game boy pocket.

But the camera is a modern camera. And the screen is in full color. You could shoot various movie scenes, and upload them to your switch. Where you have the "Mario Movie Suite". It's like Mario Paint, but sooooo much more.

Not a real game boy, btw. The whole unit is all one piece, so don't get excited that you can pull the camera and play games or put the camera in a different game boy. It's just astetics.

So you upload a movie you shot on your Game Boy Camera. Inside the movie suite on switch you can use a controller, or hook up a mouse and keyboard (non-propriatary, so these don't come with the package, but any mouse and/or keyboard will work. USB or bluetooth) to edit the videos. Then each edited scene can be placed in order.

While editing, you can put in special effects. You can use the audio editor to upload your own audio (maybe to add a music background, or special audio effects you've created). You can use the midi score to create your own music like in Mario Paint.

You can use premade animations, or draw your own.

And when you've finalized everything, the studio will save an MP4 on your memory card inside the switch that you can then transfer to a PC.

I feel like Nintendo, for all they care about creativity have REALLY been letting obvious ideas slip through the cracks.

They could even sell a $60 version of this software WITHOUT the peripheral, and you just use your cell phones camera. I think the more expensive version WITH the peripheral will be the real seller though. Even if I do think it'll cost $60 more.

God dammit.......now I got myself excited for software that isn't even being considered right now!!!

Ok, so one of the bigger problems I see on Lemmy is the fact that I subscribe to dozens of different communities, but my feed is always the same. News news news technology technology technology.

What if I want something lighthearted? What if I DON'T want to see certain topics???

Maybe I'm at work, and a big sports game is going on. I don't want spoilers, so now I can't look at Lemmy.

Or what if Nintendo hosts a Nintendo Direct before I get a chance to see it? Welp. Can't look at Lemmy.

But......what if I could? What if my main feed was exactly what it is now. But what if I had user created catagories? I could make one called "News". Now if I want to see the news, I can include that catagory in my home feed. Or I can exclude it from my home feed. I could switch over to the news catagory, and then every community that I've designated under the news catagory that I've created will show ONLY those communities home feed.

Or maybe I want to see only video game related stuff.

Or maybe I only want to see sports stuff.

I could even create user created tabs. I could name the first one "Happy" and it could include light hearted catagories. Things like /c/aww and /c/humor

I could have a tab called "Serious" and it could be all news, and updates on the world.

I could have a tab called "Nerdy" and it could be all technology and video game related stuff.

Or I could have my main home tab, where I choose which communities/catagories do and don't appear.

And you could do the same concept in Mastadon with followed users. If you follow some users who only post about pro-wrestling, and you don't want to see that? Uncheck your pro-wrestling catagory from your home feed tab. Have a seperate tab just for pro-wrestling.

I'm sure you could implement this with other fediverse services. I just haven't used many to give examples of how they would work, if I don't know how the core platforms themselves work.

Ok, so here's a situation I ran into, and thought of a solution for, but I'm not a programmer, so I don't know if this is possible.

I live in Cleveland. Last I checked, we have a population of 300,00ish people. Might be closer to 350,000. Not the point.

As it stands, in general I'd say roughly 10% of general society uses reddit. Using rough numbers, that would mean 30,000ish people. I just checked, and /r/Cleveland has 151,000 subscribers, but only 58 users on the site at the moment I checked. That tells me there's a lot of people subscribed to /r/Cleveland who no longer live in Cleveland.

I refuse to believe that of roughly 300,000 people, half are on /r/Cleveland. Especially if only 58 are online. So, maybe a lot of bots.

That being said Lemmy has probably less than 1% of society. And Cleveland has a finite number of potential users.

So when I look for the Cleveland sublemmy, I find three of them. Two I could join right away, the third is still pending because it seems the mod is the only user, and he hasn't been active in months.

Point is, this city, even if there was only one Cleveland sub would still have a very small userbase. Now we're dividing it among multiple communities all serving the same purpose. There's only so much that happens in Cleveland. The majority of the reddit posts are "where should I eat? What should I do when I visit? Why do you guys have billboards of just eyes?"

There is NOT a lot going on here. And if we split these users up multiple times, you'll have what we have now. Multiple dead communities, with a split userbase. So logically the first idea is "Well you only need one Cleveland community. The other one should close." But that flies against the very foundation of what this place is built on.

So how do you integrate both communities userbases as one, without merging the subs? And that's when it hit me.

Groups.

User groups, and sub groups. Lets start with sub groups.

So lets say I'm the head of Cleveland@instance1 and Fred runs Cleveland@instance2. We both see the userbase problem. So I send Fred a message, and ask if he wants to group up. He says yes. Now we're grouped up. So what does that mean? It means that Joe, a Cleveland resident, could subscribe to Cleveland@instance2. It would then have some checkboxes that say "group Cleveland@instance1 and Cleveland@instance2?"

And for every checkbox you leave ticked, you'll group those subs together. If you don't want to group them, uncheck the boxes of the ones you don't want to group.

So now Joe is subscribed to Cleveland@instance2. But because he's grouped my Cleveland@instance one, everytime he posts, the comments and the up/downvotes for his comment will now be grouped together. So when he makes that post on Cleveland@instance2 it will show up on Cleveland@instance1 too. Anything in that post is technically being posted to Cleveland@instance2

So if you ARE subscribed to Cleveland@instance1 but NOT subscribed to Cleveland@instance2, then you wouldn't even see the post in Cleveland@instance1. You're only seeing it, and able to interact with it from Cleveland@instance1 because they're both officially grouped, and you agreed to the grouping on your end when you subscribed.

You could, in theory reject the grouping when you subscribe, and then subscribe to the second one seperately. Which would keep everything seperate and as it is now. I don't know who would want to do that, but it would be possible.

Now, for the user groups.

Pretty much the same concept, but on an individual basis. So, lets say I subscribe to videogames@instance and I also subscribe to gamers@instance. Those communities have NOT grouped for whatever reason, so YOU group them for yourself.

So now when you post, you'll post once, and it will post your new post once in videogames@instance and once in gamers@instance.

So now you posted two seperate posts, but because you grouped them on an individual basis, you'll see all the upvotes and replies in one post in your inbox on your end. In reality there are two seperate posts, but your interaction with it feels as one.

I just learned about the Fediverse in May. I now have a Lemmy account, and a Mastadon account.

I'm not interested in /kbin, as I have no interest in facebook, but something caught my eye. SpaceHey.

Problem is, with mainstream things, you can google and find out which places are safe, private, not stealing your info........or you can find out that they're facebook, and stealing EVERYBODYS personal data. Even people who've never signed up.

I have less info on SpaceHey. And since I figure you guys know what's going on, maybe you can give it a yay or nay. I'm also interested in Peertube.

I've seen a few of their profiles, and when they say they made it just like 2008 myspace, they're pretty much wrong. This isn't 2008 myspace. By 2008 myspace was still a social network, but they were making major changes to the interface.

The profiles I saw looked more like a customized myspace profile from 2006. It was just a huge difference, but I was there.

Also, I'm unclear if it's because I have no account, but the profile display pictures don't seem to have any way to click them. You used to be able to click them, and go into a page of many pictures. The one on your profile we just called your "default photo". It was the one to represent YOUR profile. I'm also noticing that nobodies default photo is their own face. It's all anime and drawn picture art. That's not in the spirit on 2006 myspace. Your default pic was the one that you thought made you look the best.

So youngin's, don't think the idea of super close face shots, or above the head looking down shots to hide your personal body issues are some new concept. We were doing it in the dying days of 56k connections. Back when some of you were learning your shapes and colors. We were debating if that picture was default worthy, and wondering if we should re-arrange our top 8. Then getting offended when our profile was dropped from one of our friends top 8s, or moved down a rank.

Long before there was "facebook official" there was "top 8 worthy".

So, is there anything bad I should know about SpaceHey, other than the massive amount of nostolgia it's hitting me with?