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[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

I personally see it as "hyperfocus" when I'm talking about minutes or hours and "fixations" when on the scale of weeks or months. But I have a lot of opinions about semantics for someone who isn't a professional πŸ˜‚

And I agree with his point in the video, probably because I first saw it years ago so I'm already biased and it's also very much the case for me. It's perseveration. I can't break away from the task, sometimes even if I'm screaming at myself internally to do so. I hate it and it feels like I'm malfunctioning at the time. Hyperfocus sounds like a good thing, maybe even superhuman, that you can willingly steer, and that's not the case.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I wanted to get into FPGAs when I was making some custom boards with MCUs but I really had a hard time finding a good idea for a starter project with them. How did you get started? Any recommendations?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 11 months ago

What the fuck

in 2020 in which female passengers were subjected to invasive gynecological examinations.

authorities were looking for the mother of a newborn baby found abandoned in a Hamad International Airport trash can

they were taken off the flight to Sydney at Doha at gunpoint by guards and were searched without consent.

Did I wake up 2,000 years ago or something? Am I still on earth?

Qatar was β€œsurprised and shocked” that Australia had rejected without explanation its application for additional services to Sydney

Woooow. I literally don't know what to say.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

I agree, and it drives me crazy when people say that about OCD. But I think there's a gap between the extremes, and if I have the potential to be wrong, I'd rather be wrong by being validating.

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(not arguing, just pondering) Actually now that I think about it, I don't think it's the opposite end of the spectrum at all, I think it's actually the same thing. If you think about it both are coming from not understanding that the disorder is (in my awkward words) the exaggeration of normal human behavior, specifically the exaggeration. Being able to relate to it isn't enough perspective alone.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Actually sometimes I do, because I have diabetes πŸ˜‚

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

That's... sad for him that his perspective is so small. Many people seem incapable of understanding things like this no matter what you say. Hopefully he doesn't damage someone with his perspective.

I am not that experienced with EDs but I personally think the most important thing with most maintenance is not that you don't regress, but that you get back on that damn horse when you fall off. You doing that shows self-awareness and willingness to fail and keep trying to work on yourself, which is true strength. So many people easily fall into a spiral of self-hatred and give up, but no, you're doing the work, and it's hard. I have good reason to believe in you too.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I find frequently even people who have the same disability or an adjacent one can say some really ignorant stuff, almost as if their struggles gives them a license to judge others. Relating to others' struggles is good and validating, but don't let it turn into a comparison.

Even for myself, I didn't understand the whole picture of what ptsd can do to you when I was dealing with just anxiety. Now that I've experienced it, I understand the fucking sheer terror that is living in hypervigilance mode, it really seems unfathomable if you haven't been there. And I have no idea if I experience it like others do. Not saying one is worse than the other but they are not just variations of the same thing.

I'm looking forward to the world being a better place when people in general understand it's best not to try and decide for someone else what their experiences mean to them, and nobody wins when you compare suffering. I hope we make a lot of progress in my lifetime.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

I thought it was birds dancing that was for mating. But then again, I do dance for my girlfriend. Not great for mating, but she always laughs so I've got that going for me.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (2 children)

That tracks. I suppose it depends on whether I'm doing it to attract a mate or just doing it to feel good about myself.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

Well, I guess to be fair, I do a lot of normal human behavior, like pooping and sometimes imagining inanimate objects have feelings. Maybe I just need to lighten up? πŸ˜›

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

Thanks! I agree

[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

That's a good one I hadn't thought of.

BTW where can I find out more about dbzer0's instance? Like purpose/values/location/config (i.e. downvotes). I assume you have an in with someone important to have that username there (kidding πŸ™ƒ) . I'm not unhappy with where I'm at necessarily but I didn't do much research when picking, I just wanted to get on a different server that wasn't censoring things without even an announcement.

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Edit: I just learned from a comment on another post here that it's literally the only rule for this community. Thanks @[email protected] for taking out the trash.


I just ran into several comments all saying this. If you're going to be policing this community for "normal human behavior" you've certainly got a lot of work cut out for yourself. Almost everything about ADHD is an exaggeration of normal human behavior, we don't randomly tweet like birds or wear silly hats, it's the exaggeration that makes it a disorder.

It's also really invalidating and it's the same gaslighting crap that we've had fed to us by jerks our whole lives.

 

I think I saw an issues page a while back but don't see anything in the sidebar or a quick glance at the settings.

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