Yes yes amen to all of this
friendly_ghost
joined 1 year ago
Thank you for this, I've been thinking a lot about this recently. "Pushing" is almost always a violation of consent, unless it's a fun consensual thing like pushing a child on a swing. Applying force to an autonomous creature to make it do something (be that a person or a donkey or whatever) is not something that should be normalized, yet here we are. I think there are times when pushing may be justified under the circumstances (e.g., pushing someone out of the way of a moving vehicle), but there should be a check-in and repair process afterward when that happens.
This is not a consensual world we live in, and we violate our own consent all the time, but I think we can be more accountable to ourselves when we do that. When I push myself to go to work in the morning, I try to check in and remind myself that the entire system of wage slavery is not okay; that we do this to survive, not because it's good or normal. When it comes to things I have more control over, like diet, exercise, socializing, etc., I try to always invite myself to do things, provide the encouragement and support needed to do them, and be understanding about the very real reasons why the invitation sometimes gets declined. Being patient and thoughtful with myself about things is working soooo much better than pushing myself ever did.
Laundry day waits for no man
Remember when you joined the fediverse in July 2024 and immediately fought with strangers about AI? That was a wild time
Downvoting is neat; I wish it were an option here
Just read "The Story of Mel" for the first time (Issue #4, page 22); feel like I've been inducted into a programmer secret society
TL;DR: Biden plans to rearrange the deck chairs on the Titanic
Relatable
Recall snapshots back to 2003, damn that's crazy
Thank you! This makes sense to me
And to think I almost proposed this research idea for my dissertation. Dodged a bullet there
Blows up in an argument
*adds explosives specialist to resume