prenupbutter

I was a dumb kid, went for the same consistency in the grossest way possible, which was putting spoonfuls in my mouth, spitting it back into the bowl and mixing it in. One day an older friend saw that, horrified. Told me to just stir the ice cream for a while instead and I stopped with the saliva ice cream shenanigans from then on.

You're secretly asian. We dip all kinds of fruit (usually tart ones) into chili salt. Unripe mangoes and guava are my faves.

Using bspwm because I wanted even more keyboard shortcuts to remember 🥴

It's a great distro

I'll agree once I can figure out how to at least get my laptop suspend on idle. Why are there no clear docs on it???

Cut a newbie some slack! No one told me I had to use Arch as my first distro, I started with Ubuntu. Couldn't a 5 o'clock shadow suffice as a start?

Curious, how do you personally treat yoself? I could use ideas!

A bubble bath would be soooo nice... if only I had a bathtub! I don't even have hot water 🥲

And no, it's not at all creepy to be an open ear to a stranger, we should all practice being kind to one another. If chatGPT is a bust I may well hit you up ;)

I feel so silly because a friend of mine showed concern early on, saying it's easy for guys who are avoidant/emotionally unavailable to love-bomb you at the beginning and mean it, but then they get freaked out and run. I was like "yeah yeah sure" thinking it'd either not happen, or that I'd be able to handle it when it did. Clearly, I could not handle it haha.

That's a great perspective and needed reality check. It's funny how even when you're aware you're in the honeymoon phase you can get so lost in it. But yeah, I hadn't even considered your first point and now you've given me more to consider. I truly appreciate it.

Wow, your story made me really sad for you, what a terrible way to be dumped. Thank you for sharing, it helps a lot to hear someone else's experience and remember that I'm not alone. Your comment really moved me I almost started crying again haha. Thank you for being so kind.

Your words are so compassionate and matter-of-fact at the same time, and I think that's just what I needed. It's truly appreciated, thank you <3

You're absolutely right. I've accomplished so much since my last - and abusive - relationship. For some reason I was able to recover from it very quickly, and I say this as someone who took 5 years to fully get over my first (also abusive) bf.

I was VERY codependent and the relationship traumatized me, but less than 2 months after the breakup, I entered an international comedy competition and won first place. Suddenly people who didn't give a shit about me before wanted me on their shows. I had all sorts of new opportunities thrown at me and now I have a huge list of things I can happily brag about.

I probably would never have taken that sort of plunge when I was with my ex. Maybe hitting rock bottom + the anger made me fearless, I don't know.

I still struggle a bit with self-image and social anxiety, but I can see how far I've come and I think overall, I'm a pretty cool person.

Thank you for reminding me that I don't have to settle for someone who doesn't see that. You're right, I shouldn't have to convince someone to be with me. I'll tell myself that next time I have a "everything reminds me of him :'(" moment (and I'm having a LOT of those, ughh)