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friendly reminder rule (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 7 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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make sure you ask your trans/non binary friends what they do and don't like to be called 😊 it can mean a lot, if your unaware

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Let's take that dude isn't generally considered a slur which is fine. It becomes one when someone asks you to not use that term in regards to them and you continue to do so.

People absolutely shouldn't get offended if someone misterms them on first meeting. However if someone is constantly misgendering or what have you after being informed that the addressee doesn't want to be addressed that way, that person does deserve to be shamed.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 7 months ago

I get that. If someone is purposefully defying your request, that really speaks to their character flaws.

At the same time, the person making this request is probably also going to find a lot of people who are perplexed by the request, and who might subsequently keep their distance, because it's really difficult to adhere to given its extremely common usage in the American lexicon. Rather than tempt fate and offend someone, it may be easier to just avoid talking to them.

So this is a decision to be made by the person making this request, I guess