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submitted 7 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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make sure you ask your trans/non binary friends what they do and don't like to be called 😊 it can mean a lot, if your unaware

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 7 months ago

I agree, it’s nice to ask somebody about their boundaries, and it can really make them feel more comfortable.

However, I do consider it the other person’s responsibility to establish the boundaries and uphold them; if I call them something they dislike, I’d hope they’d feel comfortable enough to tell me (in a kind way). That’s the kind of friendship I’d want anyways. And if I purposefully ignore that request or argue it, I think it’s very fair for that person to be more stern in communicating their boundary. In this case, “I don’t care that you use it as gender-neutral, I don’t want to be called ‘dude’.”

Good friends/people would respect your wishes, though. It’s your identity, at the end of the day.