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submitted 7 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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make sure you ask your trans/non binary friends what they do and don't like to be called 😊 it can mean a lot, if your unaware

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[–] [email protected] 44 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I'm trans and have spent many years in trans spaces and this is the first I've heard of "dude" being problematic. Maybe it's a regional dialect thing? I did once have a colleague ask me to stop referring to our group as "guys," tho, I switched it to "team" instead.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago

I've seen it online more recently, but I do think it's something most people don't care about. So for now it seems like the best way to handle it is to just do what you normally do, and if someone says they don't like it, don't use it for them.

Until then, as a wise man once said, "I'm a dude. He's a dude. She's a dude. We're all dudes. Hey."

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

I’ve got trans and enby friends who don’t like being called ‘dude’ because they have gendered connotations associated with the word.

I’m in the PNW for reference.