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I truly wish I'd known this when I was 21. Got married super young and went through 20 years (4 years of dating, 16 of marriage) of hell. I had so many reservations that I refused to admit to myself, let alone others, because I didn't believe i was worth loving, that I'd never find love again, etc.
My family actually celebrated when I left my ex. They'd apparently seen it the whole time.
Seriously, young people. Trust your gut.
I stayed with a woman for about five years after my gut knew.
One of the things that helped me start realizing I had to get out and make my own life was this line from a psychology course I listened to on youtube, talking about intuition: