Interacting with people. As teen i sucked at social interaction but as an adult I started getting the hang of it. Now I look at other people and I think I can do it better than most. A smile and tidy clothes go a long way.
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I would say I agree with this, but also just navigating social interactions at work. As I've got my life together in the last few years, I've grown increasingly shocked at how many of my coworkers just.. can't get over simple adult challenges like avoiding hanger by eating normally timed meals/keeping their tempers in check, recognizing and isolating insecurities. These are things that take time to overcome, certainly, but the bare minimum is the bottom of the pyramid of needs, and I see well-paid people failing at them constantly.
I think that I learned a lot about basic work courtesy as a younger person but didn't actually understand how to practice it and communicate healthily and positively with others until just recently. Probably because I had my own insecurities and issues holding me back.
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The ECS design pattern.
Oh you meant talent? Well I didn't get my drivers license until I was 19.
I'm a sideshow performer, have trained a variety of bizarre skills, but still can't whistle.
So whistling
Driving. I was 40 when I finally got my license.
Learning a new language. I normally pick things up pretty quickly, but learning a new language has been a slow slow process, but worth every second :)
This post rather got me questioning what skills or talents I have. None.
So I guess all of them are taking me way longer. When I want to learn something, I usually end up spiralling into thoughts that it's too late for me and I should have known that much sooner, like others did.
I find this hard to believe. Are you thinking talent shows and CV accomplishments? We've got a whole society of people undervaluing their soft skills, and work traditionally relegated to women.
I personally am one of these people who doesn't ever get to the point where I feel I am an expert in a skill. I really love to learn enough to understand what "my" experts are talking about, and understand why they love it. Then I usually move onto something else to see if there's a better fit.
Having people in my life lavishing praise upon me for things that I don't consider that impressive is probably something that helps keep perspective, though, and I guess that is an experience I wish more people had.
Social skill. Havent learnt it since
I still suck at guitar after 26 years. It's just 12 damn notes.
You really only need 3 chords played fast for punk. Keep it up, I believe in you!
Life. Still trying to grasp the concept.
It's a pay to play opt-out sandbox.
Oof. True. At least it's open world.
Edit: also pay-to-win.
Depends on what you consider winning. But for most people owning everything they can want is winning. For some it's personal fulfillment, still money helps in that sense. So it's a easy mode I guess.
Yeah. Just more or less saying what you said. I don't agree with it, but it seems like a sad reality.