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[–] [email protected] 141 points 11 months ago (10 children)

The “Not enough mod tools” complaint is valid and I hope that improves as the platform moves forward.

I DO NOT get the disdain for the Lemmy userbase. I’ve been here for the past 4-5 months and can say I’ve had so many more meaningful and fulfilling conversations here on Lemmy than I ever did on Reddit in the 10 years I was there.

I think it’s the same situation as between a small town and a big city. Reddit is huge and with a large number of people; you’re going to statistically get a larger number of assholes. Not to mention there are tens of thousands of people commenting on anything that hits r/all, so there’s no chance someone else is going to read your 1 comment that is drowning in a sea of other comments.

Lemmy feels more like a small town. Things move a little slower here, but there’s less competition to have your voice heard, and I end up seeing some of the same users time and time again across the Fediverse. I think that smaller feel means more people have a chance to see your content without it getting drowned out by the masses, which means more opportunity to make connections.

Some people suck, but Lemmy has been fucking awesome for me so far and I love this place because of that.

[–] [email protected] 43 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Idk. It seems like that was a bot trying to dissuade people from leaving Reddit. One of the reasons we left Reddit was bc of the bots.

[–] [email protected] 44 points 11 months ago (6 children)

I had that kind of “astroturf-y” feel from the Reddit comment as well, but their opinion about mod tools is not entirely wrong.

The fear-mongering about CSAM being all over the place hasn’t been my experience, though. I’ve never come across CSAM here on Lemmy (sorry to those who have), but I don’t tend to keep NSFW posts on because I cruise Lemmy at work.

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (3 children)

New users who aren’t defederated from Lemmygrad and hexbear by default are what contribute to that perception

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[–] [email protected] 126 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

As a 10+ year reddit user who has switched 98% to Lemmy, only checking reddit on my computer every couple days: Lemmy is completely fine, and I have seamlessly transitioned from Reddit.

Its userbase is more technical than Reddit's, and there's not as much content. But it is a perfectly good Reddit alternative. I find it isn't as addictive as reddit, which is awesome. I just wish there were more educational communities akin to AskHistorians, AskScience, etc.

[–] [email protected] 44 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I’m a 15-year user of Reddit. Lemmy right now is very similar to very early Reddit. Reddit’s users were more technical back then, too. I’m betting the early adopters of places like this are usually the technical types.

Another nice thing about Lemmy is that a lot of the low-effort, casual users on Reddit haven’t gotten here yet. Interaction here is definitely a lot more pleasant.

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[–] [email protected] 38 points 11 months ago (6 children)

It's very akin to reddit ~10 years ago. Grammar nazis, "um actually" and pedantic debates are everywhere. You just have to not engage and consistently remember the other guy is probably a sweaty nerd who cares way more than you do.

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[–] [email protected] 125 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Lotta people coming here from Reddit expecting 1:1 replacement, and then get pissy that the 2 man dev team that's just trying to keep up with this sudden burst in activity isn't at parity with the multi-million dollar company that's been developing their site for almost 2 decades.

Honestly, I'm just tired of the constant comparison. Lemmy can be it's own thing. It's a work in progress and it has a lot of promise, but for anyone looking for their reddit experience, there's really only one place to get that.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I don't want Lemmy to be as big as reddit. When it does it's guaranteed to be enshittified.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 11 months ago (12 children)

It’s an open source project. It has no investors driving it toward user hostile profit seeking which is the primary force behind enshittification. A large user base doesn’t cause it, merely triggers it where the cause is already present.

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[–] [email protected] 94 points 11 months ago

The only times I've seen toxicity like this is ironically whenever there is a big wave of reddit user influx, things usually settle down for a while as they adapt to the cultures here (or get banned), it's not as much of an Eternal September as much as it is a Irregularly Scheduled September.

Most of the active comms here are smaller but better quality than their subreddit equivalent. You even get good discussions here on memes sometimes. (Politics and News here still could be better, though.)

For someone who's been very unhappy with the state of social media for quite a while, Lemmy is a breath of fresh air, even though there are definitely growing pains.

[–] [email protected] 93 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (3 children)

"I don't like Reddit.

Its interface is ugly as sin. There are fewer users there and they're all pretentious, extremely liberal, and anti American."

-Some Digg user circa 2008/2009 (probably)

[–] [email protected] 60 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 24 points 11 months ago (16 children)

One day I will wake up, realize 'based' went the way of 'tubular' and probably still not have an objective definition.

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Pretentious and extremely liberal still fit perfectly for reddit today. They definitely aren't anti-american though. They have an unquestioning bloodlust for every US state department adversary

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[–] [email protected] 67 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (4 children)

100% agree. I'm literally only here because I can't tolerate Reddit anymore and I'm addicted to having some bullshit to read on my phone.

This isn't a great website guys sorry. I don't have a better option, and I dont have suggestions on how to make it better. You can't. It's a society issue, not a tech or gui issues. I'm not sure I can think of a single website that I enjoy visiting anymore. I'm addicted; it's a habit I'm trying to break slowly.

Lemmy has just enough engagement so that I don't feel like I'm browsing a cemetery, and it's my methadone currently for my dwindling reddit addiction.

And before you try to tell me this isn't just another toxic shithole, last time I expressed this sentiment, several users messaged me to let me know I didn't need to be alive if I chose to go that route. I don't even care. I expect it everywhere online now. But it speaks volumes about how fucked up the internet has made us all.

Yes, I'm gonna go touch some grass, and no, you arent gonna talk me into walking off a tall ledge, so don't waste your breath please. I only logged in to make this comment so if someone else out there feels the same way, they don't feel like such a out of place wierdo. How toxic has the internet become when I can't even feel free to be a little bit vulnerable like this without this disclaimer? Is this the experience you wanted?

Disclaimer: I'm a shithead too, and I'm 100% positive I've been a cunt to people here without good cause before as well. Not claiming to be a great user 100% of the time, I'm human, and flawed also, and not all of my ideologies are yours.

Also: there's like 2 topics on this entire fucking platform, and the mods are just as power hungry without any actual accountability at all.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

I agree with you kind soul. Some days this place seems like a toxic cesspool. You better not have a viewpoint that is even barely contrary to the this general populace's.

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[–] [email protected] 65 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Lol, the user doesn't seem to realize that if everywhere you go and comment, if absolutely everyone is an asshole, then maybe it's you that's the problem...

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[–] [email protected] 61 points 11 months ago (18 children)

Guy is hundred percent right. Lemmy is a echo chamber for a certain demographic as vast majority of users are in it.

We either have tech, or politics. Literally every topic ends up in either. We also don't have the differing opinions aspect as just about every debater talks like they're just the different shade of the same color.

Even spicy news that would make any other site a warzone of opinions just echo chambered here. Literally everyone agrees on one conclusion and random two comments that disagree with that having at least -15 points.

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[–] [email protected] 45 points 11 months ago

I'd rather deal with this supposedly "toxic" lemmy userbase than sift through a thousand comment post where 900 are bot reposts on reddit

[–] [email protected] 42 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

I mean, is it? Because I've found it to be an overall better experience so far. Am I just not going to the right instances/communities? I mean, I get that there are some fucked up places in the Fediverse, but I haven't been actively looking for them, and I haven't accidentally stumbled across anything so far.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 11 months ago

Yeah I think we're on the good lemmies 😁

[–] [email protected] 40 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Redditors complaining about CSAM? Last I checked Reddit had a subreddit called r/18_19 (a porn subreddit for adult teenagers aged under 20) with over 1.5 million subscribers. I sorry, but there is no way that all the posters there are over 18, given Reddit's lax verification practices on NSFW instances. That's some "trust me bro" nonsense. Reddit had r/jailbait and violentacerz not even a decade ago. Spez was there back then too.

I have never seen any CSAM on Lemmy. If it's an issue, it should be dealt with the utmost urgency and concern though.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 11 months ago (5 children)

Some people really hate lemmy. There was another post in that subreddit with a screenshot of some csam instance with the title what is wrong with Lemmy. This is enough for people who is looking for a reason to not leave Reddit. Another talking point of these people are the political leaning of Lemmy devs. E.g. See this thread https://mstdn.social/@PVTejas/111022248039156302

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I miss the random non tech centric communities from Reddit. The userbase here, across the fediverse as a whole gravitates towards more tech focused aspects and while that's fine, you miss out on the random topics / subreddits you'd find on Reddit.

(The answer isn't also 'just start that community here', specially I miss randomly getting topics from subjects I wouldn't even search for, but just get surfaced because of the shear amount of content and users Reddit has)

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[–] [email protected] 37 points 11 months ago

I was on lemmy.world

well there's your problem

[–] [email protected] 37 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It sounds like the real complaint is that it's different.

Because yeah it's certainly not more toxic. That's laughable. My interactions here have been overwhelmingly better than on reddit.

And the other complaints boil down to "it's small and new, yuck"... Yeah that's a good thing usually. There have been terrible attacks with CSAM but people are handling it and luckily I've never seen a single image like that. On reddit it was not uncommon to see mutilated humans without wanting to even though there was far more time and resources available to prevent that

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 11 months ago (12 children)

eh, reddit leans left but there's a good chunk of far right extremists that have infiltrated a lot of subs especially politics ones and turned them to shit.

lemmy leans left but instead of the extreme right we have lots of extreme left and tankies,namely from 2 particular instances.

both kinds of extremists never make any sense, are complete snowflakes, and live in some sort of weird alternate reality where in some cases I can't even tell of they are extreme left or right, they both trend towards extreme levels of authoritarian dick sucking

[–] [email protected] 32 points 11 months ago (8 children)

both kinds of extremists never make any sense, are complete snowflakes, and live in some sort of weird alternate reality where in some cases I can’t even tell of they are extreme left or right, they both trend towards extreme levels of authoritarian dick sucking

this weird alt reality we inhabits portal is found by reading books, engaging with reality and talking to people outside the first world

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 11 months ago

reddit leans left

lol

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 11 months ago (4 children)

I think there is some valid complaints to be had against being swarmed by fanatics on Lemmy but there is no way it’s more toxic than Reddit. For the most part I’d say the community is very much the same between the major Lemmy instances and Reddit. Just with more FOSS evangelism and Linux love.

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 11 months ago (3 children)
  • joins Lemmy.world, notoriously mismanaged instance
  • stereotypes the rest based on one experience
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[–] [email protected] 28 points 11 months ago (5 children)

lol people are def nicer here. This guy just misses his little friends.

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (11 children)

Oh I agree. Maybe not toxic per se, but extremely out of touch. I think what happened is it just became a bigger echo chamber, because from the already echo chamber reddit, all the people who are the type to switch to the fediverse (privacy focused, foss lovers) are on lemmy, with their opinions being spouted back at them, so it feels like everyone agrees, when really they're a minority.

The biggest differing opinion between reddit and lemmy that I see is lemmy's insistence that absolutely everyone should switch to linux. Of course I saw that on reddit a bit too, but it always had some pushback.

And of course there's also the ignorance of the fediverse's problems. Like people just can't comprehend why someone wouldn't switch to Mastodon or Lemmy.

This doesn't apply to all topics though. There is still some good discussion here. Sometimes it can be better than reddit.

What's weird is I don't experience this on hacker news. People seem to be a lot less out of touch, and have a wider variety of opinions. Not entirely sure why, maybe because it's had time to mature?

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Lol. I don't have an account anymore, but I was able to lookup the post on Google and found it. Dude seems to be getting ripped apart a bit. It's pretty funny.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 11 months ago

Maybe I'm being unfair, but somehow when I read complaints like this about "purity" and "insufferable" and all that, I always assume it's "they downvoted and insulted me when I made a bigoted joke about like transpeople or something".

[–] [email protected] 25 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (28 children)

One thing I've noticed about the alternatives subreddit, is there is a lot of people persuading people against alternatives. It's almost like there was some organising to persuade people there was no alternative.

I mean, when you factor in you'd probably get removed, or shadow-banned, or have your posts removed for mentioning Lemmy, it feels like there is a multifaceted approach to discouraging folk from leaving the reddit teet.

While there is an element of truth, it's scattered in with exaggeration and only focussing on negatives. The objective was to say Lemmy bad, staying good.

No way is Lemmy more toxic than reddit. I find those "well ackshually" folks are much less here.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 11 months ago (6 children)

Seems like this person's main problem is that they went to lemmy.world, which does basically seem like a collection of all the worst redditors.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 11 months ago (7 children)

I know it sounds like I'm taking the piss, but I don't think I've encountered a kinder, more accepting community than Hexbear, due to admins here actually enforcing civility rules. And I'm sure there's an equally chill instance for people who aren't interested in tearing the arms off their boss and drinking blood directly from the limbless wounds.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 11 months ago

Hexbear is literally the only place on the entirety of the internet where I can be vulnerable in my posts without worry it's going to be used in harassment against me by some reactionary freak.

r/chapotraphouse was one of the most accepting and inclusive subreddits of all time on reddit when it came to not punching down, and Hexbear is orders of magnitude better than even that.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 11 months ago (4 children)

Elitism ? definitly. Especially linux. But toxic ? I only saw cordials talks in here, with a few trolls here and there.

As for csam I never saw any scrolling a bit every days. I saw people talking about another instance encouraging it and troll spamming, it but never once saw it myself.

What I saw on reddit without searching was almost daily gore. And definitly sone real csam (this was a long time ago, seems to be fixed now)

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 11 months ago

I have noticed this too. It's better just to not interact. At the end of the day, I just wanted a better link aggregator than what reddit became and it works nicely for that.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (9 children)

maybe it needs a little curation, but once you've blocked the instances, communities and users that are personally annoying to you, it's a fun and engaging place with the usual share of human noise. Maybe some people are happy to have reddit choosing what deserves to reach your eyes, I like to do it myself :)

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

We don't have unblockable "He gets us" spam.
That in itself is worth any friction I have to overcome to use the 'verse.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 11 months ago (10 children)

I find Lemmy uses to be a little pretentious oft times, extremely narrow minded in it's left leaning views. Very Reddit like in that last regard, perhaps more so.

At the same time, I do find a lot of insightful, clear headed individuals and some genuinely good people, but that also exists on Reddit.

The people running this site are better by far and the mods a little more level headed, but I don't expect that to last because power always corrupts.

I've already seen some people modding a stupid number of places, which is always a bad sign.

We'll see where this place ends up, but it is not as liberated and people here want to believe, and not as immune to corruption as they think.

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