Asklemmy

I'm sorry that happened to you. It sucks, and I'm not going to say it doesn't.

At the end of the day, you lost something you cared about, whether it was the feeling, the person, or simply a companion, it's still a loss and your feelings are valid here.

I agree with others that you probably dodged a bullet. That doesn't make any of this okay, but I'll say this, would you want to stay with someone who gives up so easily on your relationship?

While finding someone you care about is difficult, and I won't diminish that challenge, it does happen, and as rare as it was to find this one, there will be others. It might not be soon, but it will happen. The fact is, as much as you may have wanted this to work out, it did not. You cannot force them to want to have a relationship with you.

Things will suck, and continue to suck for a while, unfortunately there's no quick fix for this pain; you can rationalize it, as I have started to here, and all of those arguments might be true and accurate, but that doesn't make it hurt less. Feelings are not rational. You can't argue yourself into feeling better, you'll just make yourself feel guilty for not feeling better sooner. Additional feelings of guilt will only make your healing process more difficult.

Remember: "The best revenge is living well". Whenever you get to the point of bitterness about it, remember that.

I know you have a lot to do, but remember to take care of yourself, it will be difficult for you to be productive if you're struggling with your emotional state, so take care of yourself.