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Or, alternatively, what did you do to another person which got you blacklisted from their life?

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I cut off a close friend of mine when I decided to get clean from heroin. I used to use drugs with him and he was my weed dealer. He never sold me heroin, but his friends did.

I feel bad because he messaged me 5 or 6 years later saying he got clean too and said he was sorry for anything he did. He honestly didn't do anything wrong, I just felt like I had to prioritize my sobriety.

I still haven't contacted him. He was my closest friend for years. I wonder how he's doing.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's never too late to reach out, until it is. I think he will understand, and even if he doesn't, it's worth a shot.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

I second this. It's your life and you don't have to, but it would not be too late to reach out. If you want you can explain that you had to cut ties to get clean. Chances are they had to do something similar and will understand. And you don't have to jump back into a friendship. Just wishing them well might still be good for both of you.