make sure you ask your trans/non binary friends what they do and don't like to be called 😊 it can mean a lot, if your unaware
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You make some decent points. But I think the problem with this post and basically all of the comments is overgeneralization.
Like, right you shouldn't sing about rimjobs in Denny's at 10:30am (since you said you're an old person, I assume this is where and when you have lunch).
The image in this post starts with "but I call everyone dude" which can reasonably be interpreted as a response to someone objecting to being called "dude". If you insist on calling someone something that they've told you they don't like, then you're an asshole.
Then the text of this post strays off from that a bit. You don't need to prejudge people and ask them certain questions based on what those people usually prefer. Go about your life, be excellent to each other, and when someone shares something about themselves with you be considerate about it.
There's only one rule that I know of, babies—God damn it, you've got to be kind.
"I would never call someone something they don’t want to be called on purpose." then what in the fuck is even your point here? Why be an asshole to people whose feelings you'd supposedly respect? And fr what the hell is up with your tangent about us singing about rimjobs in Dennys? You sound like a conservative transphobe, if you're not I'd suggest you stop doing your best impression of one
They probably mean this exact reaction where instead of being reasonable and explaining you don't like being called that you launch into an immediate tirade.
This isn't at all the situation you're describing. It would be unreasonable to freak out on someone for calling everyone dude. I'm freaking out bc this post is full of people who would choose to call people dude even after being asked not to
A lot of the posts specifically say the opposite. "If they asked me to, I would stop", but there's also a lot of folks who seem to be blanket upset that anyone would use the word at all without asking first, which is not reasonable.
"there's also a lot of folks who seem to be blanket upset that anyone would use the word at all without asking first, which is not reasonable. " source?