Text messages and phone calls. I donβt need to see my boomer relatives racist posts.
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That was disappointing, when you grow up thinking your parents are progressive and then as old age and its symptoms happen their guards drop and you find out that they always had some racist tendencies. I guess credit to them suppressing them for so long.
In my parents' old age they've gotten more progressive. I reject the notion that people naturally trend towards conservativism as they age... I just think there are a fuckton of entitled "I got mine" boomers.
I recently read an article that claims people become more progressive as they age, but society becomes more progressive faster, so it just seems like they become conservative.
I'd live to read this study if you can find it
It was just an article I saw while randomly browsing, I wouldn't know where to look.
i think it was just the case in the past because people tended to have more means and affluency as they grew up in the 70s and 80s, so they naturally gravitated toward people like eisenhower and reagan.
Yep. I saw a fairly recent study talking about this. The short of it is that they found no correlation between age and political leaning for ANY generation, but a strong correlation between political leaning and wealth.
As people begin to benefit more from the system, the more they support pulling the ladder up behind them.
The correlation to age here is that it gets harder to adapt to new information the older we get, so people are more likely to double down rather than change their perspective as society gets more progressive and inclusive. The best weapon against racism is experiences that put people in situations to meet people with different life experiences than them. Get them outside their little white suburban bubbles. This is why conservatives hate college so much. It's often the first time kids are put in a situation where they're both out from under the thumb of their parents and exposed to kids who grew up in different circumstances than their's.
I am originally from the south but my mother joined the Air Force and we moved away after she divorced my dad when I was very young. Iβm so glad that I was able to experience life outside of that racist bubble. Iβm not sure how I would have turned out had I grown up there.
Same with me. Itβs weird, during the end of the Mayan calendar my grandparents asked my dad to leave his wife and two kids to go into their bunker to prepare to fight off the minorities that all follow the Antichrist during the end times. The reason we were not invited to their crusade was my mom voted Democrat, and Jesus would not give souls to children who would live to see the end times as that would be to cruel for their god. He told them hell no. And it was weeks before they resurfaced again and pretended nothing ever happened. Could i have been conditioned thus if my dad donβt join the NAVY? Scary thought.
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We just didnβt see it in the past because we were all kinda racist. But we grew out of it.
i really must be lucky because my mum and dad are as liberal and accepting as can be. i guess i was just lucky to grow up in massachusetts and attend a pretty liberal methodist church. my pastor growing up even hand wrote me a letter when i came out as trans and apologised for how some of the church needs to change.
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I'm the opposite. I don't need to see my Gen Z relatives desperate pleas for attention.
My boomer relatives are relatively liberal and don't feel the need to share more than the vacation they're on, the cocktail they're drinking, or their high score on candy crush.
I don't. They have my phone number. They can text or call.
Same. I have no desire to be informed every time someone takes a shit, or does something AmaZIng!
I don't use social media to stay in contact with family; I use various messaging/call technologies.
SMS and telephone and IRL.
I haven't used Facebook for over ten years. I was using Instagram for a while but the algorithm makes using it utterly pointless.
Do you really need to be on top of everyone all the time? Give your relationships room to breathe. Allow yourself to have engaging conversations with people to catch up and get to know them and the things that matter most to them. Allow yourself the liberty of not knowing the most ridiculous crap that they choose to share with the world.
Edit: Oh! I have a friend who I turned on to GroupMe a long time ago. He and his family still use it regularly. So, if you're looking for something, give that a look.
A private Signal group for nobody besides us.
Yeah same here, we even have a bunch of different groups like a sort of venn diagram. Works perfectly well including meetups.
Signal
I dont
Simple. My sister keeps in touch with the family via Facebook and I keep in touch with her by phone. π
Via my spouse.
Theyβve been informed that if theyβd like me to know something, theyβll have to tell me. As it turns out, the phone works as a phone too!
Seriously, has everyone forgotten what a "phone" is? I mean I have trouble hearing and don't like to hold long conversations on the phone, but it's still one of the quickest ways to get in touch with someone.
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Not social media, just Signal. I was able to convince them to use Signal even just for our own family group chats.
Signal groups, works great
I just text and email, also actual mail.
Telegram group chats. It's perfect.
Lol, if I had family in my social media I would have to stop using social media.
I don't use social media to stay connected with family. I lift up the phone, go visit, or if we need to communicate online, I have an XMPP server for the family with end to end encryption. Can share pictures, text, and can even do video calls if need be, send files, and so on.
Don't see the need to involve any kind of social media.
Phone, SMS, Signal/whatsapp (which technically belongs to facebook)
Why would I use a social media to do so
I don't. :)
Mainly WhatsApp. Would love to use Signal but a lot of our family members won't be switching to anything else.
None, I like it that way. I also don"t pick up the phone when they call.
I have a few friends though, we Signal.
Lemmy. Or the phone, email, actual physical letters/post cards written by hand (people really appreciate these).
The phone bra.
We text, we chat, we decolonize.
I don't really keep in contact with my family. They can call if they want, and I do the same, but otherwise, we don't interact much. I'm definitely glad I stopped using Facebook, personally. I'm not interested in seeing them fall prey to conspiracy after conspiracy and then demand I participate.
Signal and texting. It's not that hard
LINE? Signal? Text?
Signal for a few friends, Telegram for everyone else.
Why would I stay in touch with family? Those people suck.
Signal for a very few, and everybody else I don't keep up with.
Internet. Mostly internet chat and calls.
Bold of you to assume that I have family that I want to keep in touch with. Entire family tree is twisted and gnarled, and full of white-trash sociopaths and narcissists.
For the one remaining person I might keep in touch with, itβs a text message at holidays.
Whatsapp and calls. I tried to get them to migrate to Signal but they won't.
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My spouse, who uses facebook
Telephone
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