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Instead of biting my nails or playing with a fidget toy, is there a skill I can learn/practice?

Like rolling a pen/coin through my fingers or something like that.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

Absolutely knitting or crocheting. It's very soothing.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Not a useful skill, but you could try speedcubing

[–] [email protected] -1 points 5 months ago

More of a slowcuber myself

[–] [email protected] 0 points 5 months ago (3 children)

I learned to count to 31 on 1 hand using binary. I've gotten more than a few free drinks via bar bets with that skill lol.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I'm going to learn this skill and wonder why people are counting to 4 in front of me.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

4 and 5 are some of the most popular numbers out there, apparently.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Was it a bar at a software companies happy hour?

Who would bet a drink against your ability to count in binary?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Who would bet a drink against your ability to count in binary?

Shit talking and making odd claims about talents are a good way to pass the time drinking in bars with strangers/acquaintances.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 5 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 0 points 5 months ago

It’s a little over 30

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Related: get a Digitakt or Syntakt from Elektron and make music while you stim with clicky buttons 🤩

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Digitakt is awesome

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

ADHD here. Speedcubing. It's a wonderful hobby for me. When I'm interested in it, I can learn some new things and time myself to see how I'm doing. When I'm not interested in it, I can solve it and it helps me to focus on watching TV. Even if I'm not solving it, it feels great just to twist in your hands.

Look up a good budget speedcube (not Rubik's branded) and invest yourself as much or as little as you fancy.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Just recently learned CFOP from someone (still really slow at it) and it's a great fidget. I use it during a few of my more droning zoom meetings and it makes me feel like I'm doing something semi productive while I fidget.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

At some point soon you're going to solve it in front of someone whilst you're fidgeting, not even really focussing on it and you'll blow their freaking mind and you'll feel great.

Remember the GM of a TTRPG session I was playing was running a session and he noticed I'd been solving it when he'd assumed I'd just been fidgeting. He literally interrupted the session to exclaim 'Oh my God, you solved it!' and it took me a good few seconds to realize what he was talking about, as my attention was primarily on what he was saying and I was just idly solving.

Enjoy it when it comes :)

[–] [email protected] -1 points 6 months ago

That’s what stimming is for, kid!

Stimming is a natural source of the “try mind” zen practitioners speak of. Do a perfect impression of Jon Stewart. Why? Why?? Hell no there’s no why.

I drum with my fingers. The first time I picked up a tabla someone was pissed that I got it “immediately”. No! That’s the result of hundreds of hours of practice.

Stimming is a fusion reactor in the autistic mind, just waiting to be hooked up to something useful. We can practice a task orders of magnitude more than most people can, because we literally can’t get tired of it.

If nothing else, go play some music. Stimming with music is how culture began. Somebody’s gotta drag these numbskulls through their passivity to new levels of beauty. Stimming is the hacksaw that cuts the prison bars shoddy workmanship.

[–] [email protected] -5 points 5 months ago