You may want to read up in healthy boundaries. Being the better person doesn’t mean putting up with “bullshit injustice,” it means not sinking to the other person’s level. Acting with dignity and honor instead of malice and vengeance.
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I'm working on this, and I'm no spring chicken. Career doormat for other people.
I just can't suck it up anymore if I'm annoyed, particularly if I'm minding my own business and some one is trying to be a dick.
Instead of sucking it up, I let people know 'hey, not cool' and ratchet it from there. It takes a lot to get under my skin, since there isn't much that people can say that I havent said to myself while 6" in front of a mirror. If they insist, though, I just start turning that internal mantra outwards. Words are pretty effective and shutting people up.
Credit to that comedian on TikTok for that line about the mirror.
Yeah that was a good one
So you're not really asking a question, just making a vague point?
This is like the old askreddit when people would "ask a question" just to be able to share a story or gripe
Sometimes putting people in their place is for the greater good and it does make you the better person to stop someone from doing shitty things.
“But I’m just too nice”
No, you’re a pushover and you need to stand up for yourself.
When it isn't getting you anywhere.
When safety or long-term well-being are involved.
It's not being nice when you don't say anything while you're being bullied or insulted. Being nice is when you don't insult people because they made a mistake or you are in a hurry.
When you are dealing with a psychopath. They will take any opportunity to exploit and hurt you
spending 232€ on the doctor (private healthcare) a roommate called while the cost could have been avoided by her calling an ambulance (public healthcare)