axolittl

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

If you decide to have kids and choose to have a co-parent, rather being a single parent, choose a co-parent who also wants kids. Having kids with someone who doesn't want them is cursing the kids to be raised by someone who doesn't want them, which can have significant emotional consequences.

 
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (3 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Your parents are awful. You deserve so much better.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

Wow, your family is being really shitty. You deserve better.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I feel like the phrase "sleeping like a baby" was not created by someone who was a primary caretaker for a baby.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (3 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

That's fascinating. Do you have suggestions for any resources that talk about how to do this in a healthy way?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Glad you're here with us

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

"Don't be a quitter" is like saying "Fuck your boundaries. Stay in toxic situations no matter how bad they get."

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

That's so rude. People make such wild assumptions about other people's lives.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I envy the people who can be themselves at work without losing their job the same day. But only a bit, because it looks incredibly boring.

 

I'll go first: "You have to have children when you're young," told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to "How do I deal with this problem?" questions with "Oh, don't worry about it, it's enough that you're even thinking about it!"

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